Getting Physical With A Girl
When we are speaking about subjects like "relating to women", or "how to relate to women" or "Can you relate to women?", I usually get asked about the best way to start getting physical with a girl that you have known as a pal for awhile.
Getting physical is one thing that usually occurs naturally between a guy and a girl more than a three month period unless one or both of them is extremely uncomfortable on disinterested.
When a man is not comfortable with approaching a woman for a physical relationship, the the most important thing that a man could do to deal with that is learn how to observe and use gradients.
What are gradients? Gradients are just like steps on a ladder that you climb to reach the top. Some guys may try to head to the top level of the ladder without climbing any of the steps. And that makes the girl uncomfortable as well as the guy.
A man who is uncomfortable in this field should learn both how to recognize gradients when women make use of them and the way to use gradients on women.
Not every woman will begin at the same gradient. Some girls will start with a kiss after a first date, and move up steadily or swiftly from there - from kissing, to making out, to petting, to heavy petting and finally to sexual relations. If a man tries to jump to the "sexual relations" step without going through the other gradients, he might just lose the girl. However, you can lose a girl because you are moving up the gradients too slowly.
Now other girls won't even be up to the gradient of giving you a goodnight kiss till the seventh date. Gradients for her might be: getting to know you, talking about sexual topics indirectly (for instance commiserating about an ex-boyfriend), accidental touch (clashing with you as you walk), purposeful little touches to your arm or leg, holding onto your arm while you go walking, holding your hand, and then a goodnight kiss.
If you are uncomfortable with this area and want to get physical with a girl, flirt with her, romance her, notice where she is on the gradients of sexual contact, then lead her up the gradients lightly. As long as you don't skip a lot of gradients, if she is interested, she will move up the gradients swiftly or slowly depending on her personality.
If she is not interested, she probably won't budge. Try lowering the gradient and if she still doesn't move up, try talking about it. Ask her if she is serious about a relationship with you or if she only wants to be friends.
Also remember that most girls won't go out on a "date" with you unless of course they are already vaguely okay with the concept of getting physical with you. So you may need to clarify if you are dating or simply "hanging out."
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Getting physical is one thing that usually occurs naturally between a guy and a girl more than a three month period unless one or both of them is extremely uncomfortable on disinterested.
When a man is not comfortable with approaching a woman for a physical relationship, the the most important thing that a man could do to deal with that is learn how to observe and use gradients.
What are gradients? Gradients are just like steps on a ladder that you climb to reach the top. Some guys may try to head to the top level of the ladder without climbing any of the steps. And that makes the girl uncomfortable as well as the guy.
A man who is uncomfortable in this field should learn both how to recognize gradients when women make use of them and the way to use gradients on women.
Not every woman will begin at the same gradient. Some girls will start with a kiss after a first date, and move up steadily or swiftly from there - from kissing, to making out, to petting, to heavy petting and finally to sexual relations. If a man tries to jump to the "sexual relations" step without going through the other gradients, he might just lose the girl. However, you can lose a girl because you are moving up the gradients too slowly.
Now other girls won't even be up to the gradient of giving you a goodnight kiss till the seventh date. Gradients for her might be: getting to know you, talking about sexual topics indirectly (for instance commiserating about an ex-boyfriend), accidental touch (clashing with you as you walk), purposeful little touches to your arm or leg, holding onto your arm while you go walking, holding your hand, and then a goodnight kiss.
If you are uncomfortable with this area and want to get physical with a girl, flirt with her, romance her, notice where she is on the gradients of sexual contact, then lead her up the gradients lightly. As long as you don't skip a lot of gradients, if she is interested, she will move up the gradients swiftly or slowly depending on her personality.
If she is not interested, she probably won't budge. Try lowering the gradient and if she still doesn't move up, try talking about it. Ask her if she is serious about a relationship with you or if she only wants to be friends.
Also remember that most girls won't go out on a "date" with you unless of course they are already vaguely okay with the concept of getting physical with you. So you may need to clarify if you are dating or simply "hanging out."
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